How many of you are finding that you are feeling a bit different than you did 5, 10, 20 years ago? Well, I can honestly tell you that I do too! It’s become almost a daily struggle to do some of the activities I used to take for granted! Now, I, like many of you, tend to feel a bit defeated when I think about what I used to be capable of when I was younger, but I’m at a place in my life that I can no longer accept the emotional negativity that I’ve allowed myself to feel when comparing where I was then to where I am today!
I’ve been listening to a lot of Anthony Robbins lately, and I’m coming to realize that my areas of focus need to shift so that I can continue to improve myself and, in turn, be a more effective leader, a better husband and father, and more.
Happiness happens when my LIFE CONDITIONS = my BLUEPRINT
Simply put, I’m happiest when my current state matches what I had in mind. When this is out of balance, I am unhappy.
One area I feel less than happy about is my level of physical ability. In my mind, I feel I should be able to do way more than I actually can. Old injuries and lack of flexibility and mobility have made many of the activities I used to love quite painful and not enjoyable. Many of the kicks I enjoyed cause enough discomfort that I would rather avoid them than suffer the consequences of wrenching my back or pulling a tight muscle. Enough complaining! Let’s find a solution!!
Something needs to change...either my life conditions (what I’m doing now) or my blueprint (where I see myself). With injuries and tight muscles, I have to accept that I cannot do what I used to do, at least not at the same level. That said, there needs to be a shift in my blueprint. I need to change my expectations to closer match my reality so that I can get into a productive state and move in a positive direction rather than dwelling on unrealistic expectations.
In my 40s, my goals should be centered around rehabilitating old injuries rather than reliving past glories. I should focus my energy on being in the best shape I can be with the body I have. I need to allow myself to take longer to burn fat and build muscle and accept that my body has changed over the past 20 years. I need to focus on an overall positive desired outcome for my training rather than punish myself emotionally for allowing myself to fall so far behind.
Understanding how my expectations and realities co-exist and taking a mature approach to my own growth is where I’ll find happiness.
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